Welcome New Family
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Welcome New Family
JJ Sun Nov 08, 2009 4:48 pm
Warm welcome and Best Wishes to some new members of our family:
Kari and Calvin
Kari married our PJ(Robert) on Oct 17th/2009.
PJ and Kari are expecting their first child May 5th/2010.
I have posted some wedding pics on facebook if you have that info you can se them there.
Welcome aboard Kari and Calvin
Kari and Calvin
Kari married our PJ(Robert) on Oct 17th/2009.
PJ and Kari are expecting their first child May 5th/2010.
I have posted some wedding pics on facebook if you have that info you can se them there.
Welcome aboard Kari and Calvin
JJ- Posts : 108
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Age : 65
Location : upnorth
welcome
Judy Tue Nov 10, 2009 1:34 pm
yes welcome aboard my new daughter-in-law and a nice young grandson too boot and a baby on the way. what more could a mom ask for
Judy- Posts : 40
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Age : 61
Location : mid west
new baby's
joy Mon Dec 12, 2011 7:08 am
welcome Conner James Dumonson born: August 25 2010, To Becky Engebretson n Paul Dumonson. Also, Welcome Shawn Thomas born: November 3rd 2011, To Becky Engebretson n Lance Chapman.
joy- Posts : 21
Join date : 2011-11-29
Age : 65
Location : Minocqua
lance chapman
joy Mon Dec 12, 2011 1:43 pm
So, I've put it off as long as I could, but now I need to face the reality of this season of life.A Man who I barely know and may not even like is going to eventually take the most precious person in my life away. My daughter will feel caught in the middle, loving this young Romeo and wanting a family of her own, yet not wanting to provoke me to some rash action that leaves us all embarrassed.
If the marital battlefield weren't such a bloody place, I probably wouldn't have adopted this posture which may feel adversarial to the young suitor. I can't tell you the number of rocky marriages that I've watched teeter between managed misery and capitulation to divorce.
So if you're interested in my daughter. know this: I really want to love you, but getting there is not going to be easy for me. So I'd like to write you this brief letter to perhaps clarify the process for you.
My dear possible future son-in-law,
1. This thing you want to do of taking my daughter from me is deeply troubling to me. I know that you're promising to make her happy and to give me grandbabies, but let me point out, you've got no experience. In my line of work, I don't hire people without experience, so realize, I'm not just being difficult when I ask you questions like, "How will you provide for my baby?"
2. You're obviously a nice guy or she wouldn't be hanging out with you. But I will struggle to trust you. Please realize, it's nothing personal. You'll get to do this too one day.
3. In fact, I don't trust myself. The stakes are too high and the issues are too many. That's why I call my friends in to give advice. If they don't like you, then buddy, you're sunk. You better hope you can persuade my daughter to elope.
4. My daughter won't elope with you, she loves me too much.
5. If you haven't gotten to know my friends well enough for them to give a thumbs-up on you, don't bother come asking me for permission to marry my daughter. The answer will be NO. Remember, this isn't personal.
6. My friends are my tribe. It is the very tribe that you will be joining if you marry my daughter. They will become significant people in your life if you pull this thing off. So what I'm asking you to do has a double purpose. And, BTW, you'll help me vet others like you in the future.
7. Incidentally, one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high is that my generation has gone tribe-less. We have no safety nets under us as we engage in the death-defying high wire act of marriage. Tribes bring the accountability and support that people need to live full lives. They exist in cultures around the world, but owing to our radical independence as a nation, we missed out on this critical cultural artifact.
8. This gauntlet I've set up for you is really pretty flimsy. My daughter has been raised with a big heart that loves well.She may go all-in with you and you could use that to get leverage, but that would not be a good way to start your relationship with me.
9. At the end of the day, I really do want this to work, and if it does, I'll be your greatest fan. I'll love you and leave you to be happy. I'll introduce you to opportunities you'd never have access to on your own. You'll be my son.
10. That said, don't ever call me "Joy" Mrs. Engebretson will do until I say YES, after which you may call me "Mom."
This is me trying to make you a son,
If the marital battlefield weren't such a bloody place, I probably wouldn't have adopted this posture which may feel adversarial to the young suitor. I can't tell you the number of rocky marriages that I've watched teeter between managed misery and capitulation to divorce.
So if you're interested in my daughter. know this: I really want to love you, but getting there is not going to be easy for me. So I'd like to write you this brief letter to perhaps clarify the process for you.
My dear possible future son-in-law,
1. This thing you want to do of taking my daughter from me is deeply troubling to me. I know that you're promising to make her happy and to give me grandbabies, but let me point out, you've got no experience. In my line of work, I don't hire people without experience, so realize, I'm not just being difficult when I ask you questions like, "How will you provide for my baby?"
2. You're obviously a nice guy or she wouldn't be hanging out with you. But I will struggle to trust you. Please realize, it's nothing personal. You'll get to do this too one day.
3. In fact, I don't trust myself. The stakes are too high and the issues are too many. That's why I call my friends in to give advice. If they don't like you, then buddy, you're sunk. You better hope you can persuade my daughter to elope.
4. My daughter won't elope with you, she loves me too much.
5. If you haven't gotten to know my friends well enough for them to give a thumbs-up on you, don't bother come asking me for permission to marry my daughter. The answer will be NO. Remember, this isn't personal.
6. My friends are my tribe. It is the very tribe that you will be joining if you marry my daughter. They will become significant people in your life if you pull this thing off. So what I'm asking you to do has a double purpose. And, BTW, you'll help me vet others like you in the future.
7. Incidentally, one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high is that my generation has gone tribe-less. We have no safety nets under us as we engage in the death-defying high wire act of marriage. Tribes bring the accountability and support that people need to live full lives. They exist in cultures around the world, but owing to our radical independence as a nation, we missed out on this critical cultural artifact.
8. This gauntlet I've set up for you is really pretty flimsy. My daughter has been raised with a big heart that loves well.She may go all-in with you and you could use that to get leverage, but that would not be a good way to start your relationship with me.
9. At the end of the day, I really do want this to work, and if it does, I'll be your greatest fan. I'll love you and leave you to be happy. I'll introduce you to opportunities you'd never have access to on your own. You'll be my son.
10. That said, don't ever call me "Joy" Mrs. Engebretson will do until I say YES, after which you may call me "Mom."
This is me trying to make you a son,
joy- Posts : 21
Join date : 2011-11-29
Age : 65
Location : Minocqua
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